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Are you a big procrastinator? You hate doing it, but you do it! You wait until the very last second or don?t act at all.

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Procrastination is the practice of carrying out less urgent tasks in preference to more urgent ones, or doing more pleasurable things in place of less pleasurable ones, and thus putting off impending tasks to a later time. In order for a behavior to be classified as procrastination: it must be counterproductive, needless, and delaying. Similarly, it is ?to voluntarily delay an intended course of action despite expecting to be worse off for the delay.?

People experience the effects of wasting time and not meeting deadlines is devastating at both the business and personal levels. Procrastination may result in stress, a sense of guilt and crisis, severe loss of personal productivity, as well as business and social disapproval for not meeting responsibilities or commitments. These feelings can combine and may create further procrastination.

For some the anxiety and stress caused by procrastinating does, end up being a motivating force to initiate action for various tasks ? however this is usually followed by attempts to justify the delay which further reinforces the same type of behavior from the individual. While it is regarded as normal for people to procrastinate to some degree, for those wanting to stop procrastinating need to raise themselves above any attempts to justify or minimize procrastination being acceptable in any form.

Are you a big procrastinator?, but sometimes you avoid doing something if it takes you out of your comfort zone. Even though, you know multiple productivity strategies, you delay the actions as much as you can. However, after you push yourself to complete the task, you realized that it was easier than you previously thought.

How Can You Beat That?

In this post, you?ll learn Mel Robbins? one simple action to develop the courage to overcome chronic procrastination even if you don?t feel like it; transform your personal and professional life, and obtain the confidence that comes afterward.

Why Do We Procrastinate?

Nowadays, it?s easy to blame social media as many consider these apps the main outlet to procrastinate. However, research about what causes procrastination has been around for decades, long before the Internet. According to Oxford Dictionaries, the word procrastinate has been used ?since the late 16th century, when the verb first came into English via the Latin pr?cr?stin?re.?

Here?s the problem:

Fear causes the habit to procrastinate. According to Jane Burka, Ph.D., we procrastinate because of:

  • Fear of Failure
  • Fear of Success
  • Fear of Feeling Controlled
  • Fear of Separation
  • Fear of Attachment

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Following are common ways we allow ourselves to excuse delaying getting on with what we need to accomplish

  • Avoidance: Where we avoid the location or situation where the task takes place (e.g., we might avoid going to the place we work or miss appointments with other members of our team or worse our clients. Or we might sit down and watch TV instead of cleaning our bedroom).
  • Distraction: Where we engage in or immerse ourselves in other behaviors or actions to prevent awareness of the task (e.g., Surfing the Net, reading blogs or articles, planning something for the evening, socializing with others close by)
  • Trivialization: We convince ourselves (or at least try), that the intended task as being not that important (e.g., ?I?m putting off cleaning my room for the moment because I really need to eat something?).
  • Comparisons: We compare our situation with those even worse (e.g., ?Sure I did not manage to mow the lawns today, but Jerry lawn is a jungle.?).
  • Humor: Making a joke of our lack of achievement and procrastination, by thinking the effort to require accomplishing goals is funny (e.g., ?Have you notice how much hair Bob has lost in his efforts to get that promotion?).
  • External Blaming: That the cause of procrastination is due to external forces beyond our control (e.g., ?I?m procrastinating because I am waiting until other people respect what I have accomplished already!?).
  • Reframing: Pretending that getting an early start on a project is harmful to one?s performance and leaving the work to the last moment will produce better results (e.g., ?I?m most productive after 2pm.?).
  • Denial: Pretending that you?re not procrastinating, because the task you are doing is actually more important than the avoided one.
  • Laziness: Procrastinating simply because one is too lazy to do their desired task.
  • Valorisation (promoting better gains): Pointing out in satisfaction what you achieved in the meantime (while you should have been doing something else or greater value).

Effects of Procrastination

Even though procrastination is first link to time management and/or productivity, it also affects health and relationships. Surprisingly, a procrastinator is not attached to failure, as chronic procrastinators can be successful in business/studies. However, if you neglect to act when it?s needed, and it troubles your health and/or relationships; you have to reconsider your definition of success.

A word of caution:

If you suffer from severe anxiety-related procrastination don?t doubt in asking for help, starting with family and friends, but going further find professional advice.

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Conclusion

Procrastination is not so much an effect of laziness ? it is a higher trait influence of being impulsive and avoiding what we consider boredom. Most of us can recognize when we are procrastinating, we are able to reflect on what we need or intend to do and then justify to ourselves why we are not taking action. Procrastination is more likely to occur when we fail to have control on our impulsive behavior and lack the discipline to get ourselves back at the tasks at hand.

At the fundamental core, we procrastinate when we allow ourselves the emotional pleasures of the moment to have more influence on our motivations than the perceived unpleasant emotional payoff of the task at hand.  It is possible to learn new ways of manipulating the emotional intensity of the importance of our goals, and systems of strategies to increase compliance to the plans we have made for ourselves.

 

Love, Health And Wisdom

Brian

 

 

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