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My Sun Salutation

This is the way I started my day:

The Beach is good for all kinds of exercises and training. I love to go there every day for yoga, running, mountainbiking, volley, swimming, diving and fishing. Not everything each day, but many of them. So yes the summertime is definitely the best season of the year. This time I am going to show you some yoga from this morning. It is my own version of the Indian Sun Salutation.

Don´t think traditional when it comes to training. Do something new everytime. Try to break your training pattern. Challenge yourself in new ways.

I know you can do it. You should too…..

 

Love, Health And Wisdom

Brian

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Learning and development, Mindset, Philosophy, Psychology

Practice The Pause

The Pause. What a brilliant thing to do – to pause. Yet pausing isn’t something we typically even consider doing when we are in the heat of a moment. That’s the entire reason we need to Practice The Pause. By telling ourselves to practice the pause we are preparing ourselves to be aware and ready to implement it when that heat of the moment does arise in our day…and let’s face it, there is at least one moment that arises in every day when we really ought to be ready to use it.

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The Pause is good everywhere. Also in sports. Not the 100 meters of course, but e.g. soccer. Change of speed, you wait for a moment and then a new good situation accurs.

One way to practice the pause is to put a post-it note on the bathroom mirror where you will see it first thing when you wake up in the morning. Then put another one somewhere where you will see it in the midst of your day at the time you know you most often need to be reminded of it, perhaps on the dashboard of the car if you tend to get road rage when you are driving, or perhaps on the garage door as you head into the house so you see it when you walk into the house after a long day of work hungry and grouchy and tired, or somewhere in your home where you find yourself the most easily frustrated and impatient with your loved ones. Just putting that little post-it reminder in a few strategic places can make a huge difference in helping you remember that you want to practice the pause.

I can think of many times in my life, I wish I had practiced the pause, and I cannot think of a single time, I am glad where I didn’t. Nothing good ever comes from a snap response, a snap judgment, or a snap reaction. Reacting harshly to anything only leads to us doing and saying things we will later regret. But if we commit ourselves each morning to practice the pause in our day we will stay alert and be ready to take advantage of the power of the pause and the happiness it can bring when implemented.

Thank You Amy Rees Anderson!

 

Love, Health And Wisdom

Brian

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Top 5 Buddhist Teachings

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The Top 5 Buddhist Teachings That Would Change Your Life

 

1) Awaken to Life!

Mindfulness- being completely present to the life you’re living and what you’re doing- is something that can’t be understated. Expanding your awareness changes every aspect of your life, in every way. It really is as simple as that. The more you do, the more you’ll discover your own unique peace and joy- and the more you’ll be able to let go of personal struggles.

2) Change Yourself, Change the World

Everything we do, even the smallest act, is noticed by those around us. Friends, family, coworkers, all imitate each other subconsciously and repeat these acts. In this way, we’re all interconnected. Because of this, by helping yourself you can create waves of influence in the world, expanding to each person you meet. You don’t need money or power…you just need to find yourself.

3) Find Compassion

In Buddhism, it’s taught that compassion is a trait of a deeply developed human being. It’s easy to look at others and have contempt for their actions, or be upset with their life choices. After all, not everyone is perfect, and certainly not everyone is going to do thing how we’d like them to be done. But compassion means seeing beyond that and understanding people are on their own path- whether we like it or not. Moreover, most people are motivated by urges of past pain that they are not even aware of, and are trying to alleviate it. This kind of attitude creates peace within, and heal wounds that you may be hiding from yourself. Not only that, but it’s a powerful way to connect with others.

4) You Get what You Give

Giving isn’t just about the gifts we buy others at certain times of the year; it’s also about how we impact others lives. Compassion, presence, and love are all gifts that cost nothing, and will be rewarded by everyone around us. Life is a balance between giving and receiving.

5) Remove the 3 Obstacles to Happiness

In Buddhism, it’s taught that there are 3 main obstacles to finding happiness:

  • Greed
  • Hatred
  • Delusion

Every human being suffers from these 3 vices, and as a result humanity as a whole struggles to move forward. The more you work to let go of them, the more you’ll be able to find peace and influence the world for the better.

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Love, Health And Wisdom

Brian

 

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ZEN

Zen Is Just Being, feeling the flow in your body connected to and being an integreted part of the outside world.

No that is to complicated, and zen isn´t complicated.

Zen Is Just The Ultimate Being

To study Buddhism is to study the self, to study the self is to forget the self.

– Dogen Zenji

Defining Zen (禅) is like trying to describe the taste of honey to someone who has never tasted it before. You can try to explain the texture and scent of honey, or you can try to compare and correlate it with similar foods. However, honey is honey! As long as you have not tasted it, you are in the illusion of what honey is.

The same goes with Zen because Zen Buddhism is a practice that needs to be experienced, not a concept that you can intellectualize or understand with your brain. The information here won’t cover all of what of Zen is, but is a starting point to the Zen experience.

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At the heart of the Japanese culture lies Zen, a school of Mahayana Buddhism. Zen is, first and foremost, a practice that was uninterruptedly transmitted from master to disciple, and that goes back to the spiritual Enlightenment of a man named Siddhārtha Gautama (Shakyamuni Gotama in Japanese) – The Buddha – 2500 years ago in India.

The practice of Zen meditation or Zazen (座禅 – za meaning sitting, and Zen meaning meditation in Japanese), is the core of Zen Buddhism: without it, the is no Zen. Zen meditation, is a way of vigilance and self-discovery which is practiced while sitting on a meditation cushion. It is the experience of living from moment to moment, in the here and now. It is through the practice of Zazen that Gautama got enlightened and became the Buddha.

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Zazen is an attitude of spiritual awakening, which when practiced, can become the source from which all the actions of daily life flow – eating, sleeping, breathing, walking, working, talking, thinking, and so on.

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Zen Buddhism is not a theory, an idea, or a piece of knowledge. It is not a belief, dogma, or religion; but rather, it is a practical experience that lies inside of you. You just have to open your mind and let your energy flow then ZEN will come to you.

 

Love, Health And Wisdom

Brian

 

 

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Mindset, Psychology

Shout Shout Let It All Out

How is your facade?

Why do you have it?

Is it good for you?

Maybe it is time to lower your guard?

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A facade is a form of personality change that is performed to fulfill a particular emotion you wish to portray. When people put up facades, they are acting on the outside differently than how they are feeling on the inside. There are many reasons that people put up facades and a variety of ways to do it.

Eventually, people learn that what you are is not important. It is the perception of what you are that counts. For others, and what they think of you, that is all there is for them.

But, some people are not good at putting up the facade. And it shows.
Its often a buffer to blunt first contact in social situations. But there are also those who always wear a facade and this is a sign of insecurity as its easier to hide behind the mask than to risk exposing their true self.
Everyone wears masks whether they know it or not. Who are you? Ever been told to be yourself? Often times the people saying this were involved in creating the self they’re telling you to be, parents and such. There are probably 100 people on the planet who are themselves, the rest are wearing the facades created for them by others and the environment.
Perhaps its nice to have something to hide behind when folks are throwing rocks at you! How many can say to themselves that they know the real me anyway? Then there is the question of which me. The mad person locked in the subconcious is liable to be unpredictable! Some also have this unpleasant affliction called temper, he is the keeper of the key to that subconcious lock. Some people dont like to get close to others, perhaps they know hurt and are put off.
Its refreshing when what you see is what you get, with some people you can just tell, although it tends to be quite rare.

Shout
Shout
Let it all out
These are the things I can do without
Come on
I’m talking to you
Come on
Shout
Shout
Let it all out
These are the things I can do without
Come on
I’m talking to you
Come on
In violent times
You shouldn’t have to sell your soul
In black and white
They really really ought to know
Those one track minds
That took you for a working boy
Kiss them goodbye
You shouldn’t have to jump for joy
You shouldn’t have to shout for joy
Shout
Shout
Let it all out
These are the things I can do without
Come on
I’m talking to you
Come on
They gave you life
And in return you gave them hell
As cold as ice
I hope we live to tell the tale
I hope we live to tell the tale
Shout
Shout
Let it all out
These are the things I can do without
Come on
I’m talking to you
Come on
Shout
Shout
Let it all out
These are the things I can do without
Come on
I’m talking to you
Come on
Shout
Shout
Let it all out
These are the things I can do without
Come on
I’m talking to you
Come on
And when you’ve taken down your guard
If I could change your mind
I’d really love to break your heart
I’d really love to break your heart
Shout
Shout
Let it all out
These are the things I can do without
Come on
I’m talking to you
Come on
Shout
Shout
Let it all out
These are the things I can do without
Come on
I’m talking to you
So come on
Shout
Shout
Let it all out
These are the things I can do without
Come on
I’m talking to you
Come on
Shout
Shout
Let it all out
These are the things I can do without
Come on
I’m talking to you
Come on
Shout
Shout
Let it all out
These are the things I can do without
Come on
I’m talking to you
So come on
Shout
Shout
Let it all out
These are the things I can do without
Come on
I’m talking to you
Sangskrivere: Ian Stanley / Roland Orzabal
Shout sangtekster © Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC, BMG Rights Management US, LLC

If we buy into the facade’s that people put before us, it can create false conceptions about how others experience life different from our own.  The same is true with our competitors.  Just because it looks like they are hiring and growing, doesn’t mean that they actually are.  If you buy into the false facades of others, it can cause you to think less of your own business or person.  In these situations, to perceive properly, you must see through the facade and understand that outside of very intimate relationships, you don’t see the whole picture.

Moreover, If we want to both understand and ultimately help those around us, we must endevour to see through their facade.  We must truly seek to understand them prior to passing judgement or becoming deluded, as they are, with how they appear.  This often requires simulating the reality around them to understand that things really aren’t perfect and know that what you see on stage may have little correlation to what happens when the curtain closes.

 

Why don´t be

who you really are?

 

Love, Health And Wisdom

Brian

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My Name Is Luka

Involve Involve Involve

To many people look the other way,

we are responsible for each others wellbeings.

We are so busy,

busy on our own course.

Yesterday I saw a woman tumble on her bike with a little child in the child chair. I came on my bike and when she turned up the bike with the child I could see that she was a little shaky. The child cried a lot. I asked her if she was ok, and she said yes, but my child obvious isn´t, she said. Then I just said, Hi and continued on my bike. Almost immediately I felt ashamed. How could I just leave, not knowing if they were alright? I was to busy. Busy on my own course….

My name is Luka
I live on the second floor
I live upstairs from you
Yes I think you’ve seen me before
If you hear something late at night
Some kind of trouble, some kind of fight
Just don’t ask me what it was
Just don’t ask me what it was
Just don’t ask me what it was
I think it’s because I’m clumsy
I try not to talk too loud
Maybe it’s because I’m crazy
I try not to act too proud
They only hit until you cry
After that you don’t ask why
You just don’t argue anymore
You just don’t argue anymore
You just don’t argue anymore
Yes I think I’m okay
I walked into the door again
If you ask that’s what I’ll say
And it’s not your business anyway
I guess I’d like to be alone
With nothing broken, nothing thrown
Just don’t ask me how I am
Just don’t ask me how I am
Just don’t ask me how I am
My name is Luka
I live on the second floor
I live upstairs from you
Yes I think you’ve seen me before
If you hear something late at night
Some kind of trouble, some kind of fight
Just don’t ask me what it was
Just don’t ask me what it was
Just don’t ask me what it was
And they only hit until you cry
After that, you don’t ask why
You just don’t argue anymore
You just don’t argue anymore
You just don’t argue anymore
Sangskrivere: Suzanne Vega
Luka sangtekster © Warner/Chappell Music, Inc

Take responsibility

Care for and help each other

Some day you will need help too.

 

Love, Health And Wisdom

Brian

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Irrational vs Rational Thoughts

Learning a New Way of Thinking

Don´t put yourself down. Why should you?

“Sometimes I don’t even realize I am putting myself down. The bully in my head has been there so long, I can quite easily mistake her voice for my own. Luckily my partner is very good at spotting her. Once I am aware I am hearing her, it becomes easier to turn my thoughts around” explains H.

There are countless ways of looking at life – how can you know which help and which hinder? Fortunately, there are some guidelines. It is probably most useful to start by learning how to recognise irrational thinking.

Why bother with problem thoughts? This is what distinguishes ‘rational’ from so-called ‘positive’ thinking: instead of rushing to tell yourself positive ideas, you first uncover and dispute the irrational ones. Otherwise, they remain untouched – and thus able to disturb you in the future.

What does irrational mean? To describe a belief as irrational is to say:

  1. It distorts reality (it is a misinterpretation of what is happening); or it involves some illogical ways of evaluating yourself, others and the world around you – awfulising, discomfort-intolerance, demanding, and people-rating.
  2. It blocks you from achieving your goals and purposes.
  3. It creates extreme emotions which persist, and which distress and immobilise.
  4. It leads to behaviours that harm yourself, others and your life in general.

Turning your thoughts around often means translating an irrational thought into a rational thought. Doing that consciously first, will help you reprogram and hear the difference between the bully and your own inner-voice. Here are some examples of how you can make that translation:

Even when survivors distance themselves from a toxic person, we often still hear their voice in our heads, drowning out our own inner-voice and reaffirming the doubt that was planted a long time ago. In effect, we have a bully in our head.

Your Inner-Voice Needs an Amplifier

After thorough lessons in doubting your instincts and inner-guidance, it can be very tricky to evict the bully from your head. Simply stating: ‘stop listening to those voices’ is unlikely to do the trick. When you are not even aware of the patterns you follow, you need your inner-voice to have an amplifier.

The best amplifier in the world is the combined inner-voices of many survivors. By reflecting on situations and sparring with others how to deal with an issue, a survivor can receive gentle feedback on the patterns that they may be following and slowly but surely can start digging out their true inner-voice. They can learn new ways of dealing with situations and relationships. They will have a support network that will not judge them, but rather will celebrate their healing journey with them.

The rules we live by

Dr Albert Ellis, a clinical psychologist who is the founder of Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy, proposes that a small number of core beliefs underlie most unhelpful emotions and behaviours. Here are a few samples of common irrational beliefs or rules for living (click here to view the full list):

  • I need love and approval from those significant to me, and I must avoid disapproval from any source.
  • People should always do the right thing. When they behave obnoxiously, unfairly or selfishly, they must be blamed and punished.
  • My unhappiness is caused by things which are outside my control, so there’s little I can do to feel any better.
  • I must worry about things that could be dangerous, unpleasant or frightening, otherwise they might happen.
  • I can be happier by avoiding life’s difficulties, unpleasantness and responsibilities.
  • Events in my past are the cause of my problems, and they continue to influence my feelings and behaviours now.

Everyone has a set of general rules of this kind. Some are rational, others are similar to those above. Each person’s set is different.

Mostly subconscious, the rules we hold determine how we react to life. When an event triggers a train of thought, what we consciously think depends on the general rules we subconsciously apply to the event. Say you hold the general rule, ‘To be worthwhile, I must succeed at everything I do.’ You happen to fail an examination – an event which, coupled with this rule, leads you to conclude, ‘I’m not worthwhile.’

Again, suppose you believe, ‘I can’t stand discomfort and pain, so I must avoid them at all costs.’ You lose a filling in a tooth, but know that going to the dentist would be painful; hence you conclude, ‘I must avoid such unbearable pain, so I’ll leave the dentist for now.’

Underlying rules are generalisations: one rule can apply to many situations. If you believe, for example, ‘I can’t stand discomfort and pain and must avoid them at all costs’, you might apply this not just to the dentist, but also to work, relationships and life in general.

Why be concerned about your rules? While most will be valid and helpful, some will be irrational – and faulty rules will lead to faulty conclusions. Take the rule, ‘If I am to feel OK about myself, others must like and approve of me.’ Let us say that your boss tells you off. You may (rightly) think, ‘He is angry with me’ – but you may wrongly conclude, ‘This proves I’m a failure.’ Furthermore, changing the situation (for instance, getting your boss to like you) would still leave the underlying rule untouched. It would then be there to bother you whenever some future event triggered it off.

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Love, Health And Wisdom

Brian

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