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SeKiFi

Kære venner og entusiaster. Nu er der endelig ved at ske noget igen på SeKiFi-fronten. Jeg starter nu helt sikkert op på Strøbyskolen her til August. Det bliver en gang om ugen kl. 19 til 20.30 enten mandag, tirsdag eller torsdag aften. Alle er velkomne og alle kan være med til en super alsidig styrke- og kredsløbstræning i kampsportens navn.

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SeKiFi er for dig der gerne vil lære din krop bedre at kende gennem kampsportsorienteret cirkeltræning, hvor du vil lære forskellige slag, sparke og kasteteknikker, selvforsvar, yoga og meditation. Her lærer du at udnytte dit fulde kropslige potentiale som vil give dig selvtillid og handlemuligheder.

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En typisk træningsgang er:

  1. Start op meditation og yoga.
  2. Grundig opvarmning til musik
  3. Kamplege (sjove aktiviteter).
  4. Tekniktræning (fx slag og spark)
  5. Kampsportscirkeltræning (styrke- og kredsløbstræning) til musik
  6. Selvforsvar
  7. Udstrækning og yoga
  8. Afslutningsmeditation

Sekifis billede.

Ses i august.
Er du interesseret?

 

Love, Health And Wisdom

Brian

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Mindset, Psychology

Life Is An Echo

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A father and his son were walking in the mountains. Suddenly, the son falls, hurts himself and screams: AAAhhhhhhhhhhh !!!”

To his surprise, he hears the voice repeating, somewhere in the mountain: “AAAhhhhhhhhhhh !!!”

Curious, he yells: “Who are you?”

He receives the answer: “Who are you?”

Angered at the response, he screams: “Coward!”

He receives the answer: “Coward!”

He looks to his father and asks: “What’s going on?”

The father smiles and says: “My son, pay attention.” And than he yells to the mountain: “I admire you!”

The voice answers: “I admire you!”

Again the man yells: “You are a champion!”

The voice answers: “You are a champion!”

The boy is surprised, but does not understand.

Then the father explains: “People call this ECHO, but really this is LIFE. It gives you back everything you say or do. Our life is simply a reflection of our actions.

If you want more love in the world, create more love in your heart. If you want more competence in your team, improve your competence. This relationship applies to everything, in all aspects of life; life will give you back everything you have given to it.”

* YOUR LIFE IS NOT A COINCIDENCE. IT’S A REFLECTION OF YOU!

 

Love, Health And Wisdom

Brian

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Glæden ved det du har nået

Det er en Fed følelse er at få udrette noget. At få skabt noget. At få noget fra hånden, som man siger. Nogle gange tænker jeg på, hvor fedt det må være at være håndværker, når de hver dag får udrettet en masse, der er synligt, kreativt og funktionelt.

Du har sikkert også mange målsætninger for ting du gerne vil have udrettet og gjort. Nogle gange kan det være ret mange ting oveni hinanden, og dette kan frustrere én. Det kan være uoverstigeligt, og hvor skal man lige starte. Her er det at du er nød til at lave en hensigtsmæssig plan for de forskellige ting, du vil have udrettet.

Når du så tager et skridt af gangen hen imod dine målsætninger, og kan sætte flueben ved de forskellige veludførte projekter, så er det at du skal huske at glæde dig over de ting du når, fremfor de ting du ikke har nået endnu.

Jeg har haft mange større ting igang på samme tid i mit hjem. Nonfirmation, nyt køkken, nyt bryggers og drivhus. Der har været kaos. Det har virkelig været god træning i at navigere i det kaotiske, lave en plan for hvad der er vigtigst nu og gå ind i denne hensigtsmæssige proces for at få tingene til at fungere bedst muligt. Hver gang har det været vigtigt, at glæde sig over de små skridt på vejen, der er blevet klaret. Til dette er det vigtigt at understrege, at de mennesker der er omkring én, også kender til planen, så de har forståelse og kan hjælpe dig på vej, hvis du har behov for det.

Køkken og bryggers har jeg dog fået hjælp til af en rigtig køkkenmand og en elektriker, ellers har jeg selv taget køkkenet ned, lavet murer- og VVS-arbejdet. Super fedt at være med i sådan et skabelsesproces, selvom man finder ud af, hvor afhængig man er af et køkken. Især med tre drenge, der har brokket sig noget over ikke at kunne få “ordentlig” mad i de tre uger, det stod på.

 

 

Drivhus-projektet har været helt mit eget. Det har været noget af en udfordring at samle det. Brugsanvisningen har ikke været særlig pædagogisk og udførlig, så derfor har der skullet en masse kreativ og rumlig tænkning til, og dette har været ret krævende, især tidsmæssigt. Men men men, hvor er det fedt at konstruere noget. At skabe noget fra egen hånd. At sætte glasset i har været den helt store prøvelse. Tungen lige i munden, for det mindste fejltrin, så knækker glasset og i værste fald, så kan du komme slemt til skade. Nu glæder jeg mig bare til at få det helt klart, så jeg kan få dyrket tomater, agurker og squash.

Pøj med dine projekter…

 

Love, Health And Wisdom

Brian

 

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The Greatest Showman

If you believe

There is NOTHING

You can´t achieve

The Greatest Showman is a 2017 American musical film directed by Michael Gracey in his directorial debut, written by Jenny Bicks and Bill Condon and starring Hugh Jackman, Zac Efron, Michelle Williams, Rebecca Ferguson, and Zendaya. The film is inspired by the story of P. T. Barnum’s creation of the Barnum & Bailey Circus and the lives of its star attractions.

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Barnum was a true believer…

Phineas Taylor Barnum (July 5, 1810 – April 7, 1891) was an American showman, politician and businessman remembered for promoting celebrated hoaxes and for founding the Barnum & Bailey Circus (1871–2017). Although Barnum was also an author, publisher, philanthropist, and for some time a politician, he said of himself, “I am a showman by profession…and all the gilding shall make nothing else of me,” and his personal aim was “to put money in his own coffers.” Barnum is widely credited with coining the adage, “There’s a sucker born every minute,” although no evidence can be found of him saying this.

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Barnum’s career trafficked in curiosities, which he served up to a public hungry for such entertainment, regardless of how factual or ethical such displays were. His legacy in show business stretched from the American Museum to “P. T. Barnum’s Grand Traveling Museum, Menagerie, Caravan & Hippodrome” (the predecessor of “Ringling Bros. and Barnum & Bailey” circus) near the end of his life. Each were full of bigger-than-life ideas marketed to an audience interested in mass, and often crass, entertainment.

The circus business was the source of much of his enduring fame. He established “P. T. Barnum’s Grand Traveling Museum, Menagerie, Caravan & Hippodrome”, a traveling circus, menagerie and museum of “freaks“, which adopted many names over the years. Barnum died of a stroke at his home residence in 1891, and was buried in Mountain Grove Cemetery, Bridgeport, which he designed himself.

Life can be a circus

and you can

so easy be deceived

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What else can you believe,

than YOURSELF

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Be the greatest showman

of

your own life

Be the true artist

of

your passion

and dreams

Before there was Bill Gates and Jeff Bezos, there was P.T. Barnum, an entrepreneur who was known as one of the richest men in America.

Hugh Jackman’s new movie, “The Greatest Showman,” brings to the big screen the spectacle of a story that was Barnum’s life. The famous 19th-century entrepreneur dabbled in everything from publishing a newspaper to running a museum.

But Barnum’s true claim to fame was helping make the circus an explosively popular form of entertainment with his iconic Ringling Bros. Barnum & Bailey Circus, which closed after nearly 100 years in May.

Some of Barnum’s entertainment tactics were and are not to be emulated — he used people with disabilities as “human curiosities,” he purchased a black woman and supported blackface and, in modern times, his namesake circus was accused of the poor treatment of animals.

He’s a controversial figure, no doubt. However Barnum is also remembered for his entrepreneurial spirit and business acumen, and his professional advice is often reprinted in books aimed at self-starters.

In his own 1880 book, “The Art of Money-Getting or Golden Rules for Making Money,” Barnum preaches 20 rules that are still applicable today, like preserving and practicing determination. In addition to outlining attributes and traits of success, Barnum also hashes out concrete business tactics and strategies.

Here are a few of Barnum’s rules for success that are still relevant.

“Whatever you do, do it with all your might”

In Barnum’s book, he preaches about hard work, writing, “Work at it, if necessary, early and late, in season and out of season, not leaving a stone unturned, and never deferring for a single hour that which can be done just as well now.”

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While that language may be a bit outdated, the idea is not. Tech billionaire and Tesla CEO Elon Musk has also touted the importance of doing whatever it takes to succeed.

“You’ve got to do all sorts of jobs and tasks that you might not wish to do, that are not intrinsically interesting to you,” Musk said during an August 2013 Google Hangout hosted by Google for Entrepreneurs. “You’ve got to be prepared to do whatever it takes, work whatever hours. No task is too menial.”

More recently, he spoke of his willingness to get on the front lines with his employees to get the job done.

“I always move my desk to wherever — well, I don’t really have a desk, actually. I move myself to wherever the biggest problem is in Tesla,” Musk recently said during a Tesla earnings call. He said he had been working in the Gigafactory until the wee hours of the morning, helping diagnose calibration issues. “I really believe that one should lead from the front lines, and that’s why I’m here.”

“Read the newspapers”

“He who is without a newspaper is cut off from his species,” Barnum writes.

A century ago, Barnum noted the importance of staying informed on the latest inventions and improvements. Today, many of the most successful people in the world also say reading is crucial.

Berkshire Hathaway billionaire Warren Buffett spends five or six hours a day reading, according to the HBO documentary, “Becoming Warren Buffett.” That includes the six newspapers he devours on a daily basis: The Wall Street Journal, The Financial Times, The New York Times, USA Today, The Omaha World-Herald and American Banker.

Microsoft co-founder and billionaire Bill Gates goes through 50 books a year, mostly nonfiction.

And billionaire tech founder Mark Cuban says he reads three hours every day. “Most people won’t put in the time to get a knowledge advantage,” he writes in a 2011 blog post. “To this day, I feel like if I put in enough time consuming all the information available, particularly with the net making it so readily available, I can get an advantage in any technology business.”

“Be systematic”

Barnum was a believer in time management.

“Men should be systematic in their business,” Barnum writes. “A person who does business by rule, having a time and place for everything, doing his work promptly, will accomplish twice as much and with half the trouble of him who does it carelessly and slipshod.”

Multimillionaire real estate tycoon Barbara Corcoran also says that planning ahead is a key to success.

“Too much on your plate gets in the way of building the business you dreamed of having when you first started out,” says Corcoran, an investor on ABC’s “Shark Tank.” “Lucky for all of us, time is reliably fair and doles out 24 hours a day to everyone, but it’s how you make the most of it that really counts.”

“Do not scatter your powers”

Focus, Barnum says, is essential to success.

“Many a fortune has slipped through a man’s fingers because he was engaged in too many occupations at a time,” Barnum writes. “There is good sense in the old caution against having too many irons in the fire at once.”

A century later, having focus is still something to strive for. Tim Cook, CEO of Apple, says what he admired most about Apple founder Steve Jobs was that very same attribute.

“He had a focus that was unlike any other,” Cooksaid, explaining why Jobs was the person who influenced him most.

“Be polite and kind to your customers”

“Politeness and civility are the best capital ever invested in business,” Barnum writes. “Large stores, gilt signs, flaming advertisements, will all prove unavailing if you or your employees treat your patrons abruptly. The truth is, the more kind and liberal a man is, the more generous will be the patronage bestowed upon him.”

Barnum should have extended his philosophy to those he employed, be they humans or animals. But the sentiment is one that many modern-day entrepreneurs say they rely on.

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Love, Health And Wisdom

Brian

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How To Get Things Done

Are you a big procrastinator? You hate doing it, but you do it! You wait until the very last second or don’t act at all.

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Procrastination is the practice of carrying out less urgent tasks in preference to more urgent ones, or doing more pleasurable things in place of less pleasurable ones, and thus putting off impending tasks to a later time. In order for a behavior to be classified as procrastination: it must be counterproductive, needless, and delaying. Similarly, it is “to voluntarily delay an intended course of action despite expecting to be worse off for the delay.”

People experience the effects of wasting time and not meeting deadlines is devastating at both the business and personal levels. Procrastination may result in stress, a sense of guilt and crisis, severe loss of personal productivity, as well as business and social disapproval for not meeting responsibilities or commitments. These feelings can combine and may create further procrastination.

For some the anxiety and stress caused by procrastinating does, end up being a motivating force to initiate action for various tasks – however this is usually followed by attempts to justify the delay which further reinforces the same type of behavior from the individual. While it is regarded as normal for people to procrastinate to some degree, for those wanting to stop procrastinating need to raise themselves above any attempts to justify or minimize procrastination being acceptable in any form.

Are you a big procrastinator?, but sometimes you avoid doing something if it takes you out of your comfort zone. Even though, you know multiple productivity strategies, you delay the actions as much as you can. However, after you push yourself to complete the task, you realized that it was easier than you previously thought.

How Can You Beat That?

In this post, you’ll learn Mel Robbins’ one simple action to develop the courage to overcome chronic procrastination even if you don’t feel like it; transform your personal and professional life, and obtain the confidence that comes afterward.

Why Do We Procrastinate?

Nowadays, it’s easy to blame social media as many consider these apps the main outlet to procrastinate. However, research about what causes procrastination has been around for decades, long before the Internet. According to Oxford Dictionaries, the word procrastinate has been used “since the late 16th century, when the verb first came into English via the Latin prōcrāstināre.”

Here’s the problem:

Fear causes the habit to procrastinate. According to Jane Burka, Ph.D., we procrastinate because of:

  • Fear of Failure
  • Fear of Success
  • Fear of Feeling Controlled
  • Fear of Separation
  • Fear of Attachment

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Following are common ways we allow ourselves to excuse delaying getting on with what we need to accomplish

  • Avoidance: Where we avoid the location or situation where the task takes place (e.g., we might avoid going to the place we work or miss appointments with other members of our team or worse our clients. Or we might sit down and watch TV instead of cleaning our bedroom).
  • Distraction: Where we engage in or immerse ourselves in other behaviors or actions to prevent awareness of the task (e.g., Surfing the Net, reading blogs or articles, planning something for the evening, socializing with others close by)
  • Trivialization: We convince ourselves (or at least try), that the intended task as being not that important (e.g., “I’m putting off cleaning my room for the moment because I really need to eat something”).
  • Comparisons: We compare our situation with those even worse (e.g., “Sure I did not manage to mow the lawns today, but Jerry lawn is a jungle.”).
  • Humor: Making a joke of our lack of achievement and procrastination, by thinking the effort to require accomplishing goals is funny (e.g., “Have you notice how much hair Bob has lost in his efforts to get that promotion”).
  • External Blaming: That the cause of procrastination is due to external forces beyond our control (e.g., “I’m procrastinating because I am waiting until other people respect what I have accomplished already!”).
  • Reframing: Pretending that getting an early start on a project is harmful to one’s performance and leaving the work to the last moment will produce better results (e.g., “I’m most productive after 2pm.”).
  • Denial: Pretending that you’re not procrastinating, because the task you are doing is actually more important than the avoided one.
  • Laziness: Procrastinating simply because one is too lazy to do their desired task.
  • Valorisation (promoting better gains): Pointing out in satisfaction what you achieved in the meantime (while you should have been doing something else or greater value).

Effects of Procrastination

Even though procrastination is first link to time management and/or productivity, it also affects health and relationships. Surprisingly, a procrastinator is not attached to failure, as chronic procrastinators can be successful in business/studies. However, if you neglect to act when it’s needed, and it troubles your health and/or relationships; you have to reconsider your definition of success.

A word of caution:

If you suffer from severe anxiety-related procrastination don’t doubt in asking for help, starting with family and friends, but going further find professional advice.

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Conclusion

Procrastination is not so much an effect of laziness – it is a higher trait influence of being impulsive and avoiding what we consider boredom. Most of us can recognize when we are procrastinating, we are able to reflect on what we need or intend to do and then justify to ourselves why we are not taking action. Procrastination is more likely to occur when we fail to have control on our impulsive behavior and lack the discipline to get ourselves back at the tasks at hand.

At the fundamental core, we procrastinate when we allow ourselves the emotional pleasures of the moment to have more influence on our motivations than the perceived unpleasant emotional payoff of the task at hand.  It is possible to learn new ways of manipulating the emotional intensity of the importance of our goals, and systems of strategies to increase compliance to the plans we have made for ourselves.

 

Love, Health And Wisdom

Brian

 

 

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TO IMPROVE YOUR RELATIONSHIP

IT HAPPENS, WE FIND OUR RELATIONSHIPS GETTING STAGNANT AND MISS THE SPARK! HERE ARE 4 THINGS YOU CAN DO RIGHT NOW TO IMPROVE YOUR RELATIONSHIP IN A BIG WAY!

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Why is it so rare to find couple’s that actually seem to be dialed in on how to really make the relationship thing a success? Stop and think for a moment…How many couples’s do you know that have a marriage or relationship that you would truly want to emulate? Most likely you can’t think of many.

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I have been intrigued with the dynamics of families and intimate partnerships for many years. I have listened to many persons stories about their relationships and all the challenges in them. I have collected all these stories, reflected on it and here are my advice and perspective.

Now I am 46 years of age and I have been married for twenty years. That gives me quite an experience myself to tell you how a good relationship is should be and how you keep it a good healthy relationship. I’ve never stopped observing how to improve relationships. Here are some tried and true powerful tips and I promise they work to help improve your relationship in a big way!

Step 1: Write down your ideal relationship

Get out a piece of paper and pour your heart and soul into writing out the perfect relationship that you want. Write it out as if it is that way now in present form. For example, if you don’t have trust and you want it right…I am in a happy marriage filled with joy and trust. Write about different activities you do together, places you go and things you say. Fill the new story you are creating with joy, love, laughter, passion, fun and any other energy you want to infuse it with. Fold up your new story and put it in your wallet or purse. Pull it out daily and read it.

Step 2: Get clear on what you love about your partner

I often have people tell me what they don’t like and want their partner to change. Oh wow, do they usually have an ear full of requests! I then ask them what they love about their partner. Many times I then get the deer in the headlights look with them trying to search for things they love and adore. Remember whatever we focus on expands. So if I’m walking around all day thinking about what I can’t stand about my partner I get a whole lot more of that. Get in the habit of taking five minutes every single day to think about all the things you are grateful for in them and watch things start to turn around.

Step 3: Put on your partner’s shoes

This sounds easier than it really is putting yourself in someone else’s shoes. If a couple can remember this one powerful tip it really can help prevent getting into dangerous waters that can permanently damage a relationship. When something comes up that upsets your partner really try and stop to think about how they must feel. Ask yourself this one question every time they get mad about something…How would I feel if I were in their shoes? Often times the issue you are trying so hard to defend yourself against you will come up with the answer of …Yes, I would be upset too if I were in their shoes. This will help you stop and make changes on your side to compromise.

Step 4: Flirt your ass off (With your partner of course!)

Don’t underestimate this step! When couples first meet this comes so natural. After a while, people usually stop flirting and start fighting. If this is you, choose to change this now! Take the reins to start bringing excitement back into the relationship and watch your partner jump in and play along. Pretend you are boyfriend and girlfriend just starting to date. Send random flirty text messages to them. Send them a “look” from across the room. Make them feel wanted and sexy. Start having fun again!

If you want to have a fabulous relationship quit looking for your partner to create it. Be the one to start making changes now! You deserve it!

 

Love, Health And Wisdom

Brian

 

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How To Improve Your Empathy

Here are four evidensbased ways to improve your empathy

Empathy is, at its simplest, awareness of the feelings and emotions of other people. It is a key element of Emotional Intelligence, the link between self and others, because it is how we as individuals understand what others are experiencing as if we were feeling it ourselves.

Read more at: https://www.skillsyouneed.com/ips/empathy.html

Empathy goes far beyond sympathy, which might be considered ‘feeling for’ someone. Empathy, instead, is ‘feeling with’ that person, through the use of imagination.

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Empathy has it´s difficulties in a busy every day life where we have there are many demanding tasks ahead of us. We can so easy be self-centered that we do not have energy to take care of others. Especially not people we don´t know.

Would you likek to be better at using your empathy, when you are together with others? Here below I will give you some evidensbased tips how.

1) Try to put yourself in another persons place

Look the one you are talking with into the eyes. Listen, be curious, pay attention to face expression, body language and the voice.

Empathy occurs in the face to face meating. It is a basic ability to understand the face expression and body language as psychological meaningsful way of communication, even if it is different from ourselves“, says Dan Zahavi, Professor in philosophy at The University of Copenhagen.

Lars Bjerggaard Pedersen, Who is a clinical psychologist at the University of Aarhus also says:

“Empathy is the ability of recognizing the accurate same feeling as the other in the immidiate contact with another person. It is experienced in the present, when you spontaneously – and without making an effort to do so – are emotionally moved by the other persons emotionally state of mind”.

2) Time your wisdom

We can be grateful for Science and scientifically methods in all kinds of progresses for humans, but in situations where you meet your fellow humans with empathy, it can be a good idea to put away your wisdom about how the world is working to aside. Empathy has nothing to do with to show your wisdom to the other person. Empathy is just all about daring to be quiet, listen and not always coming with solutions for the other.

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3) Reflect on the other´s situation

Imagine how it is to be in the other persons shoes.

By training your reflecting on how other persons experiences are emotionally, you can achieve a better empathy.

4) Read fiction, watch movies and art

Fiction can give us insight in how it is to be another human being and living a completely different life than yourself. There are evidens that shows that fiction itself can make you more empathic. You can read about it in this article.   ‘En god bog er alligevel ikke en hurtig empati-’booster’.

Science from The University Of Columbia in the USA, has shown, that art and literature can increase empathy.

Can we save the world with more empathy?

https://videnskab.dk/kultur-samfund/kan-vi-redde-verden-med-mere-empati

 

Love, Empathy And Wisdom

Brian

 

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