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At være fortabt og finde sig selv

Hvornår har du sidst følt dig fortabt? Fysisk, hvis du pludselig ikke kunne finde vej til noget, eller at du ikke kunne overkomme det? Eller mentalt, hvis du ikke kunne rumme følelsen eller tankerne enten i dit personlige eller sociale liv.

At være fortabt er en vital og yderst vigtig proces i at finde ud af hvem du er, og hvad der er vigtigt for dig i dit liv. Nogle lever et helt liv uden at finde ud af det. Vil du det?

Når du føler dig fortabt og du føler dig på dybt vand er der en risiko for at ængsteligheden eller ligefrem angsten sniger sig ind på dig, og tager fat i dig. Her er det du skal huske på, at angsten er noget du selv skaber, og selv er noget du kan kontrollere. Angsten kan ikke gøre dig noget, med mindre du lader den gøre dig panisk, og du deraf gør noget dumt. Hvis du føler angsten gribe dig, så søg tilbage til dit kerneselv med åndedrættet i centrum. Træk vejret stille og roligt helt ned i maven og mærk dig selv. Gennem det rolige åndedræt finder du styrken…..og dig selv i situationen.

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The greatest explorer on this earth never takes voyages as long as those of the man who descends to the depth of his heart.”

Julian Green

Herunder er der tre måder, hvorpå det at være fortabt (faret vild) kan være udviklende for dig. Det kan være lærerigt, give dig selvindsigt, selvtillid, nærvær og livskvalitet.

1. For det første er du nød til at lytte til dig selv og mærke hvilke behov, følelser og tanker du har om selve livet. Føler du dig tilfreds med det du har, og der du er på vej hen? Føles det rigtigt, det du har gang i, eller er du for ydmyg og lever mere for at gøre andre tilfredse. Ofrer du dine behov for andres? Spørg dig selv om dette er rimeligt. Vil du leve dit liv sådan? Giver det dig den bedste livskvalitet?

I always thought I knew who I was, but I didn’t. Many of my ideas about who I was came from the world telling me what I should and shouldn’t choose, and who I should and shouldn’t be. 

  

2. Er du bange for at finde ud af, hvem du virkelig er? Er du bange for at dykke ind i            dig selv og kigge på eventuelle dæmoner, som vi jo alle har nogle af mere eller                      mindre? Uanset hvad, så er det altid godt at udvide ens selvindsigt og finde bedre            ud af dig selv, hvis du ikke allerede i forvejen ved tilstrækkeligt. Mærk efter i dig selv. Træk vejret dybt, mange gange og mærk efter, hvad der rører sig i dig. Hvad popper op? Se på det. Hvad tror du det er. Imens husk du er til stede nu og her, i nuet og du er så meget tilstede.

The first step to ‘finding who you are is to break yourself down. To question your beliefs, opinions, likes, and dislikes. Were did they come from? Who are you trying to please? Who are you trying to impress?

3.  At finde dig selv er en rejse, ikke en destination. En del af det er at begå fejl. En stor del af at blive klogere på dig selv, sker gennem en masse begåede fejl, så du skal være vis nok til at lære af. Bliv ved med at kaste dig ud i at gøre ting, og vær ikke bange for fejltagelser, for hvis du lærer af dem alle, så bliver du efterhånden meget klog på dig selv og livet. Bare husk; at når du er dig selv, så vil du få større respekt fra dine omgivelser, og hvad der er allervigtigst – Du vil respektere dig selv.

Nogle gange vil du tvivle på dig selv, især hvis du føler at evnerne eller kompetencerne ikke rækker til forskellige opgaver. Dette må ikke stresse dig. Igen træk vejret dybt. Prøv at sætte dig ind i tingene, se om du kan finde noget overblik og indsigt. Måske kan du finde nogle muligheder.

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The same is true for most life challenges – we often remember challenges and mistakes we made, and what was learned from these failures. Sometimes a little failure early in the learning process can be a good thing.

Knowing yourself means respecting your values in life, your beliefs, your personality, your priorities, your moods, yourhabits, your magnificent body, and your relationships.

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Knowing yourself means understanding your strengths and weaknesses, your passions and fears, your desires and dreams. It means being aware of your eccentricities and idiosyncrasies, your likes and dislikes, and your tolerances and limitations.

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Knowing yourself means knowing your purpose in life.  Plan what you really want to do and work on what needs to be done to get you to there…… starting today.

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There are many simple ways to get lost and challenge your mind—reading an engrossing book (perhaps especially a good mystery novel), engaging in some conversation about a topic you don’t know much about, or just trying something new that isn’t in your usual repertoire (lost in a menu at a new restaurant).  Getting lost makes you and your brain grow, and while scary at times, you can enjoy the benefits.  Get lost!

 

Love, Health And Wisdom

Brian

 

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Motion i den mørke tid

Det er ikke altid lige nemt at holde gejsten oppe til motion i den mørke og køligere tid, og det er helt naturligt. Man får nemlig en helt naturlig trang til at hygge, putte og spare på energien. Desuden er der også en større trang til at indtage føde og endda af den mere usunde slags. Ydermere er der også juletiden at slås med.

Men du ved det godt. Du bør komme afsted, og det lurer i baghovedet som en dårlig samvittighed. “Jeg skal nok få det gjort. Bare ikke i dag. I morgen bliver det”. 

Nej! Det bliver heller ikke i morgen. Det skal gøres I DAG.

Når du er færdig med dagens opgaver eller lige er stået op, og du mærker at energiniveauet er helt i bund, så er det, at du sørger for at få drukket et glas vand (gerne med en halv friskpresset økologisk citron)  og siger til dig selv, at kravet til motionen er bare en gåtur. Når forventningen blot er en gåtur, så er det noget nemmere at leve op til, og så kan du derudfra udvikle din fysiske udfoldelse, når du er kommet afsted. Det kan være, når du har gået et stykke tid, så får du lyst til at lunte eller powerwalke. Det kan også være, at du bare vil gå i samme tempo, og det er fint. Sådan kan det fx også være med svømning. Tag i svømmehallen med forventningen om wellness. Dejligt bad, sauna og måske spa. Så kan det jo være, når du er kommet i svømmehallen, at det udvikler sig til nogle baner svømning. Det samme kan du gøre i fitnesscentret.

Det handler blot om ikke at stille for høje forventninger til dig selv, planlæg at du kommer afsted, og så gør det.

Find den naturlige energi og lyst til bevægelse. Hvis du har mistet den, må du tvinge dig til at finde den igen.

 

Love, Health And Wisdom

Brian

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Believe that YOU can

If you really want to do it,

You really can do it.

It is all in your head.

Will power = Life Power.

It is not tomorrow,

it is NOW.

Right NOW.

I have a goal for you, that I hope you will make a goal for your self. What about doing ONE pull up by the end of this year 2018?

 

Love, Health And Wisdom

Brian

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Alors On Danse

This song is just great from the belgium artist Stromae. The song is about the hard every day life many people are having. All the things you have to do and then when you have a kind of freedom e.g. in the weekends where you can party, then you go crazy. But do you have freedom at all? Are you not controlled by lifes circumstances and actions you have made in the past? You are into all the things you have made through out your life. Can you get out of it and do you really want to? What do you really want?

At the beginning of the video a man (Played by Stromae) is sitting in his office. After a hard day’s work, he apparently wants to visit his child, but as he arrives at his wife’s house he is told to leave. He proceeds to walk down the street, and as he does this a homeless man steals his coat. He then enters a pub. At first he does not appear to enjoy himself, but as he becomes more inebriated he begins to sing on a small stage. After his performance he passes out, and is brought back by an unknown man, possibly his boss, from the pub to his office desk in the first scene, where the video started.

You can listen to it below and sing along in the french lyrics. Under the french lyrics you can see the english translation.

Stromae – Alors on dance – lyrics

Alors on danse, Alors on danse,
Alors on danse,

Qui dit étude dit travail,
Qui dit taf te dit les thunes,
Qui dit argent dit dépenses,
Qui dit crédit dit créance,
Qui dit dette te dit huissier,
Oui dit assis dans la merde.
Qui dit Amour dit les gosses,
Dit toujours et dit divorce.
Qui dit proches te dis deuils car les problèmes ne viennent pas seul.
Qui dit crise te dis monde dit famine dit tiers- monde.
Qui dit fatigue dit réveille encore sourd de la veille,
Alors on sort pour oublier tous les problèmes.

Alors on danse, Alors on danse,
Alors on danse, Alors on danse,
Alors on danse, Alors on danse,
Alors on danse, Alors on danse,
Alors on danse,

Et la tu t’dis que c’est fini car pire que ça ce serait la mort.
Qu’en tu crois enfin que tu t’en sors quand y en a plus et ben y en a encore!
Ecstasy dis problème les problèmes ou bien la musique.
Ca t’prends les trips ca te prends la tête et puis tu prie pour que ça s’arrête.
Mais c’est ton corps c’est pas le ciel alors tu t’bouche plus les oreilles.
Et là tu cries encore plus fort et ca persiste…
Alors on chante
Lalalalalala, Lalalalalala,
Alors on chante
Lalalalalala, Lalalalalala

Alors on chante, Alors on chante,

Et puis seulement quand c’est fini, alors on danse.

Alors on danse, Alors on danse,
Alors on danse, Alors on danse,
Alors on danse, Alors on danse,
Alors on danse,

Et ben y en a encore,
Et ben y en a encore,
Et ben y en a encore,
Et ben y en a encore,
Et ben y en a encore…

 

ENGLISH TRANSLATION

So lets dance
So lets dance
So lets dance

He who talks about studying, talks about working
He who talks about working, talks about money
He who talks about money, talks about spending
He who talks about spending, talks about debt
He who talks about debt, talks about the bailiff
And also about being in shit
He who talks about love, talks about children
Says until death death do us part and says divorce
He who talks about his peers, talks about mourning because problems never come alone
He who talks about a crisis, talks about a lot of people, talks about the 3th world hunger
He who talks about being tired, talks about awakening, tired from yesterday
So we party, to forget the problems

So lets dance
So lets dance
So lets dance

And you say this is the last time, because only death is worse
When you think everyone is ok and fine, nothing has happened
Ectasy spells problems or it sounds like the music
It gives you a trip and you put your head in your hands praying for it to end
But it’s your body, not the heavens and you stop listening.
Then you scream harder and it won’t stop

So lets sing
Lalalalalala, Lalalalalala,
So lets sing
Lalalalalala, Lalalalalala,

So lets sing
And only when it ends, we dance
So lets dance
But wait, there’s more

 

Love, Health And Wisdom

Brian

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How your brain creates meaning

Every single second each day, when you open your eyes to you shut them down at bedtime, you are bombarded with information from your surroundings.

It is your brain, that tries to give meaning to al the different kinds of information, you receive. But sometimes – if it gets disturbed – it makes mistakes.

An American research team has shown this by creating an optic illusion, that illustrates how the brain is working on creating meaning on something after is has happened.

This after processing from the brain is called postdiction. 

The researchers constructed illusion involves your visual and auditive sense and are the first of its kind to show how postdiction is working across different senses.

Are you ready to try it?

Because of the three bips, you hear, you will probably think, that you also saw three flash light too, but there where only two.

According the scientists, this shows how the brain is creating illusions about things, that has happened to give meaning to you. The brain tries to give you meaning all the time, even if it has to make an illusion. There were to flash lights, but your brain is telling you, that there were three.

This can help us to understand how the brain is working in general. This knowledge can help us to understand mental diseases, where some of them is about how the brain are perceiving and creating the world around us in a wrong way.

https://www.sciencealert.com/scientists-created-two-time-travelling-illusions-to-trick-brain-senses

Which orange spot is the biggest?

Love, Health And Wisdom

Brian

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Don´t Mess With The Quiet One

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Often we pay most attention to those with the loudest voices and the most to say. In doing this, we underestimate the power of the quiet one.

At any gathering of people, be it a party or a business meeting, there will be those who talk loudly and demand attention. These extroverts have lots of great ideas, are socially adept and draw others to them like moths to a flame. In that same party or business meeting, there will often be a quiet one. This person says little but listens a lot. If you watch carefully, you may see that he or she is taking everything in. When they finally speak, the rest of the group are often astonished by the power of their ideas or the insights the quiet one shares.

There is nothing wrong with either of these types of people. We need both the outgoing extroverts and the quieter, more introverted people to make society work.

The problem is, that in our current society, we pay most attention to those who make the most noise. And this is a mistake. By doing this, we miss out on the amazing ideas and insights of the quiet one in the room.

Ways quiet people are often misunderstood

It is often assumed that quiet people have little to say, or that they are socially awkward. People may assume they don’t have any insights or ideas. Some people may even decide they lack intelligence. People may also assume that quiet people are weak, submissive and passive. None of these things are true.

In fact, quiet people are often strong, creative, intuitive and brilliant. We shouldn’t assume that just because they are quiet they will put up with bad behavior either. Quiet people watch and listen and when they have all the information they need, they act. So watch out that you don’t upset the quiet one – you could be in for a shock.

This hilarious quote from Amy Efaw sums it up:

“Don’t judge me because I’m quiet. No one plans a murder out loud.”

1. The quietest folk listen a lot and may know more than other people suspect.

The reason quiet people are quiet is that they are listening. Unfortunately, some louder people spend so much time talking they have little time for listening or thinking. Quiet people don’t make this mistake. They listen carefully and think deeply so you can be sure that when they finally do speak, they have something amazing to say.

Louder people should never assume that a quiet person has less knowledge or intelligence than them. If they do, they may well end up looking stupid.

2. Quiet people observe and pick up on more than others

It’s very hard to fool a quiet person. They listen and watch everything that goes on carefully. While louder types may amaze others with their eloquence and enthusiasm, the quiet one in the room will notice when those words have little depth and are full of bluster or badly thought through ideas.

They also pick up on much more than the words that are spoken. Quiet people focus on behavior and body language too. This means they easily spot inauthentic behaviors and outright lies and deceptions.

Be afraid of the quiet ones, they are the ones who actually think.

3. Quietness does not equate with weakness – so don’t mess with them

Quiet people will speak out against any wrongdoing or unfairness. They are quick to point out bad behavior. Quiet folk are often slow to defend themselves, but once they are pushed too far, they can react with astonishing power. They are also quick to support more vulnerable members of the group. Quiet people have high moral standards and a strong backbone so it’s best to keep on their good side.

4. Even the quietest of people have excellent social skills

Quiet people do not lack social skills. They just use a different set of skills to extroverts. In their own unobtrusive way, they develop close relationships built on trust and mutual respect. And when they are with those whose company they enjoy, they can be the life and soul of the party.

5. Quiet people can be just as determined and loyal as louder folk

Extroverts who think quiet people have little to offer should beware. While others are networking and proclaiming their ideas, quiet people are creating bonds of trust with others. They are also determinedly working on brilliant ideas of their own that, when revealed, will stun everyone else into silence.

6. Quiet people will not tolerate being treated badly

Even the nicest people have their limits

Some extroverts assume that they can easily take advantage of quiet people. This isn’t true. Quiet people have a well-developed sense of their own value. If anyone tries to fob them off with the boring and less prestigious jobs they will rebel. It isn’t wise to do this anyway as quiet people’s insights can be extremely useful to the group or team.

To sum up, always pay attention to the quiet ones. Though their mouths are often closed, their minds are wide open.

Quiet people have the loudest minds.

6 Reasons Why You Should Never Mess with the Quiet One

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The Silence in You

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Can you hear the silence?

or are you to busy letting other people know who you are?

See me see me.

Are you getting enough attention

and do you like the emphasizing of yourself.

Perhaps you are afraid of not getting heard……..

drowning in the silence…….Then…..

You have not yet found peace in your soul.

You are running away from your true self.

You need to find peace in yourself….

Right NOW.

Find The Sound of Silence in your soul.

Then you find peace and the wisdom of life.

No matter how many monsters

and ghosts you are carrying along,

you have to face your inner self

to become alive and strong.

Find and hear the sound of silence.

 

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You have the answer inside of you…

Courage it will tage to dig it up.

Have faith in you.

You can do it.

Love yourself.

Hear yourself….

in the quite way.

 

Love, Health And Wisdom

Brian

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