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My Sun Salutation

This is the way I started my day:

The Beach is good for all kinds of exercises and training. I love to go there every day for yoga, running, mountainbiking, volley, swimming, diving and fishing. Not everything each day, but many of them. So yes the summertime is definitely the best season of the year. This time I am going to show you some yoga from this morning. It is my own version of the Indian Sun Salutation.

Don´t think traditional when it comes to training. Do something new everytime. Try to break your training pattern. Challenge yourself in new ways.

I know you can do it. You should too…..

 

Love, Health And Wisdom

Brian

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Learning and development, Mindset, Philosophy, Psychology

Practice The Pause

The Pause. What a brilliant thing to do – to pause. Yet pausing isn’t something we typically even consider doing when we are in the heat of a moment. That’s the entire reason we need to Practice The Pause. By telling ourselves to practice the pause we are preparing ourselves to be aware and ready to implement it when that heat of the moment does arise in our day…and let’s face it, there is at least one moment that arises in every day when we really ought to be ready to use it.

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The Pause is good everywhere. Also in sports. Not the 100 meters of course, but e.g. soccer. Change of speed, you wait for a moment and then a new good situation accurs.

One way to practice the pause is to put a post-it note on the bathroom mirror where you will see it first thing when you wake up in the morning. Then put another one somewhere where you will see it in the midst of your day at the time you know you most often need to be reminded of it, perhaps on the dashboard of the car if you tend to get road rage when you are driving, or perhaps on the garage door as you head into the house so you see it when you walk into the house after a long day of work hungry and grouchy and tired, or somewhere in your home where you find yourself the most easily frustrated and impatient with your loved ones. Just putting that little post-it reminder in a few strategic places can make a huge difference in helping you remember that you want to practice the pause.

I can think of many times in my life, I wish I had practiced the pause, and I cannot think of a single time, I am glad where I didn’t. Nothing good ever comes from a snap response, a snap judgment, or a snap reaction. Reacting harshly to anything only leads to us doing and saying things we will later regret. But if we commit ourselves each morning to practice the pause in our day we will stay alert and be ready to take advantage of the power of the pause and the happiness it can bring when implemented.

Thank You Amy Rees Anderson!

 

Love, Health And Wisdom

Brian

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Just for fun, Psychology

Mænd Og Kvinders Hjerner

Mænd og kvinderes hjerner

Forskerne scannede hjernen på 428 mandlige og 521 kvindelige forsøgspersoner i alderen fra 8 til 22 år. Målet var bedre at kunne forstå hjernens funktion og derved udpege særlige forbindelser, der kan være velfungerende eller beskadigede.

Undersøgelsen pegede på, at i gennemsnit er mænds hjerner bedre udrustede til reagere på noget de oplever, mens kvinder har en større intuition og er bedre til at analysere. Og det viser sig allerede i barneårene. Fund af hormoner viser, at forandringerne virkelig tager fat i puberteten, hvor mænds og kvinders hjerner forandrer sig i forskellige retninger.

Mænds hjerner er altså mere indrettet til hurtig forståelse af en situation og hvordan man reagerer på den, især med hensyn til fysisk at reagere på informationer. Kvinders hjerner er bedre til at integrere informationer med følelser.

Danmarks sjoveste hjemmeside

Nogle siger, at mandens hjerne kun tænker på én ting, og det er sex. Andre påstår, at mænd i gennemsnit tænker på sex hvert 7. sekund. Nu har et hold forskere fra Ohio State University undersøgt sagen og fået sat tal på, hvad der er op og ned.

Go røv!

Hvis mandens hjerne skulle tænke på lagengymnastik hvert 7. sekund, så vil det være over 12.000 sexrelaterede tanker i løbet af et døgn. Hvis man så medregner, at man sover i 8 af døgnets 24 timer, og ikke også drømmer om sex, så er det 8.000 tanker om sex i løbet af de vågne timer.

I så fald skulle man mene, at det kunne være svært at passe et arbejde eller overhovedet at kunne koncentrere sig om noget som helst andet.

Det er dog heller ikke en myte, der holder vand.

Forskerne ved Ohio State University udstyrede 163 kvindelige og 120 mandlige collegestuderende mellem 18 og 25 år med kliktællere, hvor de så i løbet af en dag skulle registrere, hvor mange gange deres tanker strejfede sex, søvn eller mad.

Undersøgelsen viste, at sex indtog en førsteplads hos mændene, ved i gennemsnit at strejfe mandens tanker 19 gange i løbet af en dag. Dog skarpt forfulgt af tanker om mad, der viste sig 18 gange i løbet af en dagen. Tanker om søvn var der i gennemsnit 11 af om dagen.

Bare en tanke..

Til sammenligning tænkte kvinderne i gennemsnit på sex 10 gange i løbet af dagen, maden fik mere opmærksomhed hos kvinderne end sex, og fik hjernen på arbejde 15 gange i løbet af en dag. Søvn tænkte kvinderne kun på 9 gange i løbet af en dag.

Så hvis man går derude og tænker, hvorvidt man er unormal, fordi man enten tænker for meget eller måske for lidt på sex i løbet af en dag, har man nu nogle mere konkrete tal at forholde sig til.

 

Love, Health And Wisdom

Brian

 

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Mindset, Psychology

Shout Shout Let It All Out

How is your facade?

Why do you have it?

Is it good for you?

Maybe it is time to lower your guard?

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A facade is a form of personality change that is performed to fulfill a particular emotion you wish to portray. When people put up facades, they are acting on the outside differently than how they are feeling on the inside. There are many reasons that people put up facades and a variety of ways to do it.

Eventually, people learn that what you are is not important. It is the perception of what you are that counts. For others, and what they think of you, that is all there is for them.

But, some people are not good at putting up the facade. And it shows.
Its often a buffer to blunt first contact in social situations. But there are also those who always wear a facade and this is a sign of insecurity as its easier to hide behind the mask than to risk exposing their true self.
Everyone wears masks whether they know it or not. Who are you? Ever been told to be yourself? Often times the people saying this were involved in creating the self they’re telling you to be, parents and such. There are probably 100 people on the planet who are themselves, the rest are wearing the facades created for them by others and the environment.
Perhaps its nice to have something to hide behind when folks are throwing rocks at you! How many can say to themselves that they know the real me anyway? Then there is the question of which me. The mad person locked in the subconcious is liable to be unpredictable! Some also have this unpleasant affliction called temper, he is the keeper of the key to that subconcious lock. Some people dont like to get close to others, perhaps they know hurt and are put off.
Its refreshing when what you see is what you get, with some people you can just tell, although it tends to be quite rare.

Shout
Shout
Let it all out
These are the things I can do without
Come on
I’m talking to you
Come on
Shout
Shout
Let it all out
These are the things I can do without
Come on
I’m talking to you
Come on
In violent times
You shouldn’t have to sell your soul
In black and white
They really really ought to know
Those one track minds
That took you for a working boy
Kiss them goodbye
You shouldn’t have to jump for joy
You shouldn’t have to shout for joy
Shout
Shout
Let it all out
These are the things I can do without
Come on
I’m talking to you
Come on
They gave you life
And in return you gave them hell
As cold as ice
I hope we live to tell the tale
I hope we live to tell the tale
Shout
Shout
Let it all out
These are the things I can do without
Come on
I’m talking to you
Come on
Shout
Shout
Let it all out
These are the things I can do without
Come on
I’m talking to you
Come on
Shout
Shout
Let it all out
These are the things I can do without
Come on
I’m talking to you
Come on
And when you’ve taken down your guard
If I could change your mind
I’d really love to break your heart
I’d really love to break your heart
Shout
Shout
Let it all out
These are the things I can do without
Come on
I’m talking to you
Come on
Shout
Shout
Let it all out
These are the things I can do without
Come on
I’m talking to you
So come on
Shout
Shout
Let it all out
These are the things I can do without
Come on
I’m talking to you
Come on
Shout
Shout
Let it all out
These are the things I can do without
Come on
I’m talking to you
Come on
Shout
Shout
Let it all out
These are the things I can do without
Come on
I’m talking to you
So come on
Shout
Shout
Let it all out
These are the things I can do without
Come on
I’m talking to you
Sangskrivere: Ian Stanley / Roland Orzabal
Shout sangtekster © Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC, BMG Rights Management US, LLC

If we buy into the facade’s that people put before us, it can create false conceptions about how others experience life different from our own.  The same is true with our competitors.  Just because it looks like they are hiring and growing, doesn’t mean that they actually are.  If you buy into the false facades of others, it can cause you to think less of your own business or person.  In these situations, to perceive properly, you must see through the facade and understand that outside of very intimate relationships, you don’t see the whole picture.

Moreover, If we want to both understand and ultimately help those around us, we must endevour to see through their facade.  We must truly seek to understand them prior to passing judgement or becoming deluded, as they are, with how they appear.  This often requires simulating the reality around them to understand that things really aren’t perfect and know that what you see on stage may have little correlation to what happens when the curtain closes.

 

Why don´t be

who you really are?

 

Love, Health And Wisdom

Brian

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My Name Is Luka

Involve Involve Involve

To many people look the other way,

we are responsible for each others wellbeings.

We are so busy,

busy on our own course.

Yesterday I saw a woman tumble on her bike with a little child in the child chair. I came on my bike and when she turned up the bike with the child I could see that she was a little shaky. The child cried a lot. I asked her if she was ok, and she said yes, but my child obvious isn´t, she said. Then I just said, Hi and continued on my bike. Almost immediately I felt ashamed. How could I just leave, not knowing if they were alright? I was to busy. Busy on my own course….

My name is Luka
I live on the second floor
I live upstairs from you
Yes I think you’ve seen me before
If you hear something late at night
Some kind of trouble, some kind of fight
Just don’t ask me what it was
Just don’t ask me what it was
Just don’t ask me what it was
I think it’s because I’m clumsy
I try not to talk too loud
Maybe it’s because I’m crazy
I try not to act too proud
They only hit until you cry
After that you don’t ask why
You just don’t argue anymore
You just don’t argue anymore
You just don’t argue anymore
Yes I think I’m okay
I walked into the door again
If you ask that’s what I’ll say
And it’s not your business anyway
I guess I’d like to be alone
With nothing broken, nothing thrown
Just don’t ask me how I am
Just don’t ask me how I am
Just don’t ask me how I am
My name is Luka
I live on the second floor
I live upstairs from you
Yes I think you’ve seen me before
If you hear something late at night
Some kind of trouble, some kind of fight
Just don’t ask me what it was
Just don’t ask me what it was
Just don’t ask me what it was
And they only hit until you cry
After that, you don’t ask why
You just don’t argue anymore
You just don’t argue anymore
You just don’t argue anymore
Sangskrivere: Suzanne Vega
Luka sangtekster © Warner/Chappell Music, Inc

Take responsibility

Care for and help each other

Some day you will need help too.

 

Love, Health And Wisdom

Brian

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Irrational vs Rational Thoughts

Learning a New Way of Thinking

Don´t put yourself down. Why should you?

“Sometimes I don’t even realize I am putting myself down. The bully in my head has been there so long, I can quite easily mistake her voice for my own. Luckily my partner is very good at spotting her. Once I am aware I am hearing her, it becomes easier to turn my thoughts around” explains H.

There are countless ways of looking at life – how can you know which help and which hinder? Fortunately, there are some guidelines. It is probably most useful to start by learning how to recognise irrational thinking.

Why bother with problem thoughts? This is what distinguishes ‘rational’ from so-called ‘positive’ thinking: instead of rushing to tell yourself positive ideas, you first uncover and dispute the irrational ones. Otherwise, they remain untouched – and thus able to disturb you in the future.

What does irrational mean? To describe a belief as irrational is to say:

  1. It distorts reality (it is a misinterpretation of what is happening); or it involves some illogical ways of evaluating yourself, others and the world around you – awfulising, discomfort-intolerance, demanding, and people-rating.
  2. It blocks you from achieving your goals and purposes.
  3. It creates extreme emotions which persist, and which distress and immobilise.
  4. It leads to behaviours that harm yourself, others and your life in general.

Turning your thoughts around often means translating an irrational thought into a rational thought. Doing that consciously first, will help you reprogram and hear the difference between the bully and your own inner-voice. Here are some examples of how you can make that translation:

Even when survivors distance themselves from a toxic person, we often still hear their voice in our heads, drowning out our own inner-voice and reaffirming the doubt that was planted a long time ago. In effect, we have a bully in our head.

Your Inner-Voice Needs an Amplifier

After thorough lessons in doubting your instincts and inner-guidance, it can be very tricky to evict the bully from your head. Simply stating: ‘stop listening to those voices’ is unlikely to do the trick. When you are not even aware of the patterns you follow, you need your inner-voice to have an amplifier.

The best amplifier in the world is the combined inner-voices of many survivors. By reflecting on situations and sparring with others how to deal with an issue, a survivor can receive gentle feedback on the patterns that they may be following and slowly but surely can start digging out their true inner-voice. They can learn new ways of dealing with situations and relationships. They will have a support network that will not judge them, but rather will celebrate their healing journey with them.

The rules we live by

Dr Albert Ellis, a clinical psychologist who is the founder of Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy, proposes that a small number of core beliefs underlie most unhelpful emotions and behaviours. Here are a few samples of common irrational beliefs or rules for living (click here to view the full list):

  • I need love and approval from those significant to me, and I must avoid disapproval from any source.
  • People should always do the right thing. When they behave obnoxiously, unfairly or selfishly, they must be blamed and punished.
  • My unhappiness is caused by things which are outside my control, so there’s little I can do to feel any better.
  • I must worry about things that could be dangerous, unpleasant or frightening, otherwise they might happen.
  • I can be happier by avoiding life’s difficulties, unpleasantness and responsibilities.
  • Events in my past are the cause of my problems, and they continue to influence my feelings and behaviours now.

Everyone has a set of general rules of this kind. Some are rational, others are similar to those above. Each person’s set is different.

Mostly subconscious, the rules we hold determine how we react to life. When an event triggers a train of thought, what we consciously think depends on the general rules we subconsciously apply to the event. Say you hold the general rule, ‘To be worthwhile, I must succeed at everything I do.’ You happen to fail an examination – an event which, coupled with this rule, leads you to conclude, ‘I’m not worthwhile.’

Again, suppose you believe, ‘I can’t stand discomfort and pain, so I must avoid them at all costs.’ You lose a filling in a tooth, but know that going to the dentist would be painful; hence you conclude, ‘I must avoid such unbearable pain, so I’ll leave the dentist for now.’

Underlying rules are generalisations: one rule can apply to many situations. If you believe, for example, ‘I can’t stand discomfort and pain and must avoid them at all costs’, you might apply this not just to the dentist, but also to work, relationships and life in general.

Why be concerned about your rules? While most will be valid and helpful, some will be irrational – and faulty rules will lead to faulty conclusions. Take the rule, ‘If I am to feel OK about myself, others must like and approve of me.’ Let us say that your boss tells you off. You may (rightly) think, ‘He is angry with me’ – but you may wrongly conclude, ‘This proves I’m a failure.’ Furthermore, changing the situation (for instance, getting your boss to like you) would still leave the underlying rule untouched. It would then be there to bother you whenever some future event triggered it off.

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Love, Health And Wisdom

Brian

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Move Up The Emotional Scale

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Essentially, your feelings are guideposts to your mental state. Most people think that we experience an emotion as a reaction to an event; something happens and it triggers a corresponding emotion in a process that we really can’t control. But that’s not really the case. Our emotions are an indicator to us of where our alignment is at. The worse we feel, the less aligned we are. The better we feel, the more aligned we are.

Negative emotion is an indicator; a warning sign that what you are focused on or thinking about isn’t helpful to you. To start feeling better, you need to start working with the thoughtsbehind the emotions, rather than the emotions themselves (the thoughts are the cause, the emotions are the effect, or the symptoms – you want to go to the root in order to make lasting changes).

Your power is always in your thoughts, and by shifting those thoughts to better-feeling ones, you can work your way up the emotional scale, from the worst-of-the-worst all the way up to the best-of-the-best, in a scaffolding process that leads to ever greater alignment and focus with your highest good.

LOA Emotional Scale

The Law of Attraction isn’t just about techniques and tricks—it’s a lifestyle in itself, and one that teaches how our emotional state can impact on the way our life develops.

Learning to move up the emotional scale is all about having a more harmonious and joyful daily experience—one that helps you to manifest more effectively by bringing you fully in tune with your own intentions.

Before we look at the different tips and techniques for moving up this emotional scale, there are several things that you need to understand about feelings:

  • Feelings are influenced by our thoughts and perceptions.
  • We tend to suppress our feelings.
  • And suppressed feelings lead to anxiety and depression.
  • Feelings are contagious.
  • But we are all entitled to have feelings. Feelings simply exist. We are all human, and we all sometimes feel jealousy, hatred, frustration, irritation and other negative emotions. There is no need to blame yourself for them, because this way you will only create even more negative emotions. Just accept that you feel what you feel and get ready to turn the negative energy into positive energy.
  • Bad feelings lead to even worse feelings. But good feeling create better feelings. This is the concept of upward and downward spirals.

Upward-and-Downward-Emotional-Spirals

Here are 4 techniques for moving up the emotional scale.

Step 1. Priming The Scale

The morning is a magical time—you have a blank slate to work with as you first emerge from the unconscious world of sleep, and what you think and feel during these early moments can have a huge impact on where you lie on the emotional scale throughout the day.

Find something to be grateful for as soon as you wake up, and focus on it for 1-2 minutes before getting out of bed. Connect those feelings of gratitude to your intention to manifest what you want, and let excitement and enthusiasm flood your body.

On a side note, the morning is also an excellent time to engage in spiritual activities like meditation, creative visualization, or yoga. If you can set aside 10-20 minutes for one of those activities, you’re starting the day as far up the emotional scale as possible.

Step 2. Balancing The Scale

You can’t avoid encountering at least a small amount of negativity in the world each day, whether it comes from someone with a bad attitude or from a devastating story in the news. And, as you know, you do attract what you emit—and you’re emitting at least a degree of negativity when you encounter these things.

Using the Law of Attraction doesn’t require you to deliberately blind yourself to all negativity to the point that you’re entrenched in denial. While it is of course important to create a positive environment internally and externally, it’s useful to acknowledge the existence of negativity so that you can deliberately and purposefully balance the scale of what you are manifesting.

Since positive feelings, beliefs and thoughts hold so much more power than negative ones, even simple exercises can serve as scale-balancing. For example, try taking just 10-15 minutes per day to intentionally reflect on things that are only positive. You can do this any way that feels right, whether you visualize wonderful memories, focus on upcoming events, or write down lists of things that make you happy.

Regardless of your approach, you should quickly start to see the scale turning—more positive things and events will likely come your way.

Step 3. Maintaining Your Place On The Scale

There are also little things you can do throughout the day to reduce your chances of sliding back down the emotional scale. In particular, it’s crucial to take breaks from the demands of work, family and society in order to quiet your mind and reconnect with the present moment.

As you’ll know from reading common Law of Attraction success stories, mindfully anchoring yourself to the present reliably accelerates the manifestation process.

Try taking simple breaks of 1-2 minutes every couple of hours, and commit to focusing purely on your breathing during these interludes. Breathe deeply, inhaling from your diaphragm and filling up your lungs, and then slowly and gently exhale as you feel your body relax.

If you’re already used to practicing mindfulness exercises, you might prefer to spend 1-2 minutes on your breath and then a further 1-2 minutes connecting with all of your bodily sensations and systematically relaxing any tense muscles you encounter.

Regardless of its deceptive simplicity, this type of exercise helps you disconnect from external stressors and builds the type of resilience that keeps you at a reliably productive place on the emotional scale.

Step 4. The Unconscious Emotional Scale

When you’re asleep, your unconscious mind is still active, which means you’re still unknowingly having an impact on what you’re able to manifest—and the rate at which you’re able to manifest it.

To move further up the emotional scale during sleep, you can try techniques that put your mind in a particularly good place as you start to drift off. You can choose to do a creative visualization exercise as you fall asleep, but if you’ve had a long and tiring day then it’s often easier to commit to something simpler that requires less energy.

One of the most powerful exercises for moving up the unconscious emotional scale involves asking yourself this straightforward question: “What was the best thing that happened to me today?” Think of the day’s blessings, and the major sources of goodness in your life.

You may be surprised by the moving little moments that you remember—moments that may otherwise have been forgotten.

Your mind will continue to answer and explore this question as you fall asleep, eliciting responses in your unconscious and strengthening your potential to manifest.

 

Love, Health And Wisdom

Brian

 

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