1. Life isn’t short if you don’t live it that way.
Your life can be very long and adventurous if you choose so. Surround yourself with people, and even animals, that you can enjoy every moment with.
2. Adaptation will come with the changes you make.
“You’re resilient, dear, you’ll learn to accept change as you grow.” This quote always comes to mind when I come across a difficult situation.
“Small things and big things will seem like milestones.
3. Enjoy the world around you.
Mobility and independence in this great big world is something to be cherished and appreciated. Travel often and enjoy the little things when you do.
4. Your life is all yours.
“Stop worrying about what others think and live your damn life!” An analogy I came up with on my own, which they all agreed on, is that if you order tomatoes on a sandwich and someone tells you that they don’t like tomatoes, would you take them off?
5. Stay off your high horse.
Be humble. The residents always reminded me that you don’t know what others are going through and that nobody is more important than someone else.
“If you go around acting like a queen, those around you won’t bow down to you. Don’t expect much.”
6. Be mature but learn when to lighten up.
The happiest residents were those that found humor in the little things.
One lady that I always had a good laugh with was in a wheelchair, couldn’t move both of her legs and one of her arms. Her one good arm was so shaky that she had to have some assist her at meal times. She always cracked jokes and would talk to you about anything.
She told me once,”You have to find humor here or else you’ll be so depressed that you’ll lose your noodle.” She stressed also to be mature when need be, otherwise, you’ll look like a fool.
7. Don’t take everything to heart.
Negative moments with some of the residents would hurt my feelings. I couldn’t take everything personally though. They didn’t like the circumstances they were in. You never know what someone is going through so if it looks like someone is having a bad day and they snap at you, walk away. It doesn’t make them a bad person, just means they’re having a rough time.
8. Never lose compassion.
“You’re a sweet girl. Don’t lose that. You’ll be sorry if you do.” It’s always important to sympathize with others and try to put yourselves in their shoes. Be positive and treat others with kindness. “Kill them with kindness. Just because they’re being nasty doesn’t mean that you have to be.”
Steps to find fulfilling work:
- Take the initiative to investigate the places you think are of interest. Ask good questions.
- Go with the self-assurance of having written on an index card each of your past accomplishments(including where you simply helped other people do their thing) in three forms:
- A simple phrase; e.g., ?top salesman in New York office for three years?
- A three-sentence statement of the problem, your solution, and the result
- A one-page explanation or anecdote to share if asked to give details
- Use those cards deftly to encourage people to talk to you ? showing you listen on their level and understand whatever they tell you. Remember: The more they talk, the smarter they?ll think you are.
- Tell your spouse and children that you love them every day, no matter how you feel.
- Do not bring your problems home with you.
- Realize the joy that comes from helping your spouse and children excel in their fields of interest and enjoy themselves.
- Develop within your family a sense of obligation to help others.
- Spending quality time with your family ? not just time ? is critical.
- Choose a spouse who will understand and support you, and one for whom you will do the same. Life is much better if you can help each other grow and expand your knowledge, experiences, friends, and capabilities.
DONALD P. NIELSEN:
- Not all decisions turn out well. Be prepared to deal with problems over which you have no control.
- Almost everything will require more money and more time than you think.
- Never settle for ?good enough.? Always strive for excellence.
- Set high expectations for yourself and those with whom you work.
- Move quickly to deal with people issues.
- Hiring smart, driven people is a ticket to your own success.
I was born in 1932 and grew up during the Depression. In the beginning, poverty was the level to which I aspired. When I reached it, my next goal was to get out of debt. That took several years. Then my goal was to become financially independent. After reaching independence, more money was not a great motivator for me. My interest became trying to make a difference ? making the company I worked for successful, and working for my church and other volunteer organizations.
Retire to something ? not from something. Stay engaged. Be physically active and intellectually curious.
Love, Health And Wisdom