Re-frame Your Negative Thoughts

Re-frame Your Negative Thoughts

Like everyone on this planet, you want to be as happy as possible, as much of the time as possible. But like most people, you probably don't have happiness as your primary priority. Or maybe you think you do, but in reality, you find yourself consistently sabotaging yourself by slipping into sadness, despair, regret, and other unproductive negative thoughts.

Without happiness as a priority, it's very easy to slip into negativity and suffer much more than you need to in this life. That's why, if you want to learn how to level up the quality of your life, it's so crucial that you embrace the pursuit of happiness as your primary priority, and not just as a concept that sounds nice.

Once you truly embrace the pursuit of happiness, you'll have the right mindset for being able to recognise and re-frame negativity. And the right mindset is crucial because you have thousands if not tens of thousands of negative thoughts a day.

You need to wake up every day to do battle with demons. The demons of doubt, despair, and depression. There's no other way. It's spiritual warfare and you have to be ready to wake up and win every day.

The good thing is with the right mindset, and the right re-frames, you can start feeling better instantly.

6 steps to re-frame you negative thoughts

It takes time to get rid of negative thoughts and maybe you will not at all, but you will get much better to handle the negative thoughts. Know where they are coming from and put them aside by bringing in good, pleasant, and happy thoughts. These will in time outmatch the negative ones.

Below there is a video that can help too.


The first thing you need to focus on is your awareness. In other words, be mindful of negative thoughts. If happiness is your primary priority, you need to take awareness of negativity very seriously, like a gun to your head seriously.

You need to stay aware because you're going to have thousands of negative thoughts a day, at least. It's just a matter of catching them, recognising you're unhappy, and asking the right questions.

Asking the right questions

The right questions are all variations of:

  • Why I'm unhappy?
  • What do I have to do to feel better?

You are the questions you ask yourself, so you must know how to ask the right questions.

Once you ask the right questions, you prime yourself for the right re-frame.


The right re-frame is the best re-frame of your negative thoughts at the time. You might not be able to get happy, but you can always get out of doubt, despair, and depression even if it's just too neutral.

Re-framing, or state management, is the most important skill there is.

And in practice, is much more effective than any type of therapy. Because therapy deals with the past, yet the past no longer exists. The present is all that's real, and state management is in control of the present.

The past is not the way forward, the present and the future are. Staying stuck in the past is why you suffer.

It's like with physical pain, it doesn't matter how bad that pain is, from fever to cancer, once the pain is gone, it's gone, you can't remember physical pain if you tried. Mental pain, however, can be relived, rehashed, and remembered ad infinitum. And many types of therapies encourage this!

Compare the mind to the body:

Therapy is like taking a physical scar or injury that's causing you pain, and picking at it, opening it up, and digging into it, thereby amplifying the pain so you can remember the pain and somehow "process it".

Re-framing is taking the same physical scar or injury that's causing you pain, taking the right medicine, or doing the right stretches to remove the pain and feel good, in the present moment.

The game-changing revelation comes when you recognise that you choose how you feel.




Negative thoughts only have the power to hurt you if you let them.

It doesn't matter how bad the thought is or what happened to you, you always have control over how you feel.

You have the choice to choose positive or negative and when you're being negative you are actually CHOOSING to be.

This one can also be helpful. You can e.g. hang it up in your home.

Steps how to deal with negative thoughts

Keep on fighting. DonΒ΄t let negativity win.

This article was updated on November 12, 2022